It is a good day to be thirty years old and the mother of two wild things.  I have reached a place in my life where I know who I am, what I am capable of and have gathered just enough wisdom to start making better life choices.  It is a gift to posses this things and a gift that I wish I could share with my sisters of motherhood.  Migraine pain, the fear of migraines and the leftovers from a migraine can give us one of two things.  1) Despondency and a failing in our determination to do what we want or 2) A feeling of great power to conquer and defeat that which threatens to breakdown out life goals.  I choose #2.  I am not defeated. 

 I have said for sometime that the gift that pain gives us is compassion.  I am thankful for the compassion I have.  I am grateful to have faced unbearable misery so that I can stand tall now knowing my own strength.  I am amazed at myself for crushing the fear that threatens me every day.  With out the suffering I would not be all that I am.  I so wish I could share even a piece of the power I feel in my self knowledge with all of you.  But, you have the ability to find your own worth, and your journey is your own.  It’s gifts are there for you to discover and enjoy.   I believe in potential and am certain that we are all born with equal potential for great things.  If you feel hopeless or lost, believe in yourself.  Start small, wake up and tell yourself ’I am wonderful, no, I am marvelous!’  I would add, because you are, but you do not need my validation.  Believe in yourself and great things begin to happen.   I hope you live life to the fullest, and to overflowing.

Mirgraine….I Live with Shadows

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I am waiting.  Any second a migraine could show up.  My eyes are clouded with shadows and little flickers of sparkly lights are firing.  Some days this happens and it goes away.  Not so sure I will pull out of it today.  It is hard to say for sure, I have gotten so accustomed to shadows.  It is allot like watching T.V. with a major glare on the screen.  I can sort of see. 

If I were a child still, I would give the shadows a name and pretend they are little haunting creatures that are more than a little evil, like gargoyles hanging around waiting for something……

I am migraine free.  Well at least for the last three weeks.  My eyes are so much better.  I have gone a whole week with out wearing a hat or being partailly blind.  I wish I knew why they come and go so feverishly.  I am still getting some pretty vicious headaches though.  I invested in some essential oils that are designed for headache pain.  I have been really surprised at how effective they are.  I have not tried them on a full blown migraine yet, but everyday head pain is being greatly improved by these sweet smelling oils.  I just can’t complain when the medicine I use does not harm my organs, make me sicker or interfere with my ability to speak in full sentences.  Essential oils aimed at relieving headaches, even migraines are a pleasant way to alleviate at least some of the pain.  I rub mine on my wrists and temples and in a few minutes I feel more relaxed and in less pain.  I carry my bottle in my purse everywhere I go now.

I hate the flu.  Like many people I got a flu virus every year for the first twenty years of my life and I suffered the fever, vomiting and respiratory ailments like everyone else.  I refused to take a flu shot because I hate needles.  Later in life I turned to natural health care instead of medical health care and have in the last ten years had the flu twice.  I still do not get the flu vaccine because I believe that it is evil (Or at least semi-evil, I do think it has a place just not on the plate of every American) oh and I hate needles.  I watch the flu season every year with curiosity and a painstaking effort to beef up my immune system and my children’s to avoid being sick.  This is how I know that every year there are over 25,000 - 30,000 deaths reported as being caused by a flu virus in the U.S.  The Swine virus has at this point caused two deaths in America since its outbreak.  So I am forced to wonder if the so called pandemic known as the swine flu is really as terrible as they are saying.

I know I am biased when it comes to the medical world.  I admit that I am bitter and resentful, its true.  But, does it not stand to reason that the drug companies that are oh so cozy with the CDC may have an influence in the general public concept of what is a pandemic and when they should all run to their doctors requesting vaccines and anti viral medications?  The CDC, doctors and the drug companies have this country running blind, fueled by fear.  20 times more anti viral medications have been prescribed in filled in the last week than the typical amount.  Huge shipments for flu vaccines are being hauled in.  This is last years vaccine.  This is a vaccine designed to fight the flu that went around starting last October, not the swine flu.  There is no vaccine for the swine flu.  Yet, doctors are happy to give you a shot of this relatively useless vaccine with just a dash of formaldehyde and mercury for extra health support.

The name Tamiflu, the popular antiviral drug, is on the lips of every person who has read up on the swine flu.  You hear people in the grocery store talking about it.  “At least we have Tamiflu”, or “I heard the president ordered more Tamiflu be stocked.”  I encourage you to do some even some light research on Tamiflu.  First you will discover that its capabilities are incredibly limited.  It claims that it can rid you of up to one day of flu symptom relief.  That’s it.  Tamiflu will cut one day off of your total flu suffering.  It won’t save your life or keep you out of the hospital.  However many people who take Tamiflu do suffer with phycosis or loss of full body mobility.  recent studies on this ‘wonder drug’ state that fifteen people have died from taking Tamiflu because they became so accident prone that they actually injured themselves fatally. 

I do not wish to make light of the deaths or suffering that the swine flu has caused.  However, a moment of reflection leads me to wonder is this so called pandemic a serious concern or did the drug company get overstocked on vaccines and antiviral medications?

Having children and coping with migraines can be overwhelming and depressing.  My five year old asks me nearly every morning if I think I will have a bad headache today.  His blue eyes look at me with a degree of pity that I hate seeing in someone so young.  He hurts when I hurt.  I wish I could be the supermom that never gets sick, never cancels a trip to the park because of a headache and is always running around tossing her children merrily in the air.  I am not that sort of supermom.  However, I am a supermom none the less.  While it breaks my heart that my boys already know in life that I am not very well and that our day is suspended by the tiny thread of my health and that it can snap at any moment.  But, I can not help but feel proud of them.  Already they show signs of a deep compassion for people who hurt, and for me when I can not do what they or I want.  It is my hope that if I work hard, my boys will not be badly impacted by my health problems, but will be better men for their sincerity and empathy.  Even in the grips of the worst pain of migraines and other sickness I cling to my belief that nothing can keep me from giving my children the best opportunityto be great people.  Adversity can breed depression and bitterness but given the right angle and determination it can also create a sort of quantum leap in character growth.  My children are already characters, I simply need to help it grow into something wonderful.